Not Reaching Your Fitness Goals? Ditch Your Training Buddy!

You’ve finally taken a good look at yourself in a full length mirror. You’ve finally realized that getting out of breath walking up a flight of stairs is just not normal. And you’ve finally realized that cleaning up your diet and exercise is absolutely NECESSARY to live life to the fullest.

Congratulations, you are determined to get fit!

At this point, many fitness professionals would recommend looking for a workout partner. Or they would say you need to join a gym and be trained by a personal trainer.

I say that’s the worst thing you can do!

The Desire To Be Fit Needs To Be Your Secret

You see it all the time: Fitness professionals almost always recommend getting a workout partner. And on the surface, this looks like great advice. But dig a little deeper, and you’ll quickly learn this is a big mistake.

You see, in a “Perfect World,” having a workout partner is great! Two people get together who share the same goals and are as equally committed to achieving these goals. They support one another. They inspire one another. They push one another.

But we don’t live in a perfect world.

Most times, there’s an inequality in the relationship. One person wants it more than the other. And soon, one of the participants is missing workouts, putting in lack luster performances and convincing their partner to skip a workout and do something else. So, if you really want to succeed, you need to keep your desires a secret and do it yourself.

The Sad Truth Is, Other People Want You To Fail

Another reason to keep your fitness, fat loss, and physique building goals a secret is that most people don’t want you to succeed. Your fat, out of shape classmates, coworkers, and friends like the fact you are just like them. And while outwardly they may show support, inside they don’t want you to be better than they are. (Don’t expect them to ever admit this, but it is just human nature).

How many times have you tried a diet or exercise program and told your acquaintances about it, but then fell short? Remember the comments when you wanted to take a bite of that cake?

“I thought you were on a diet,” they say with a smirk.

They love to see you fail!

Remember when you decided to join your coworkers after work for Happy Hour? They say laughingly, “Cheers to your health kick!”  Secretly, they’re happy when you fail and can’t wait to point out any deviation in your diet and exercise ambitions.

So, don’t tell them!

The Number One Reason To Keep Your Fitness Goals A Secret

If you haven’t guessed by now, I believe getting fit, burning fat, and building an attractive and high-performance body is YOUR responsibility, and yours alone. I applaud you for acknowledging the desire to improve yourself. Now, it’s time to take responsibility for your success.

When you say you need a workout partner, a gym membership, or a personal trainer, you are trying to avoid your role in success. You start to think your success is determined by some outside source… not you.

This sets you up for failure, and lets you off the hook.

When your workout partner doesn’t show up, you blame your crappy workout on them. If you don’t belong to a gym, you say that is the reason you are unfit, unhealthy and unattractive. When you don’t get the results you want, you blame your trainer.

I say that you and you alone are responsible!

Keep your desires to yourself and then take ACTION to fulfill them. Don’t rely on anyone else… just get it done.

Take responsibility. It's worth it!

If you are reluctant to go against “common” fitness advice, I want you to think of something. Common fitness advice has not been responsible for many success stories. As a matter of fact, things seem to be getting worse. So, break the trend and take responsibility for your own fitness.

Let your secret desire drive you, and don’t stop until you get what you want!

About Coach Lomax

Coach Eddie Lomax is a well know fitness coach and author of the Athletic Body Workout.

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