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This is a discussion on Ever feel this way?????????? within the Relationships and Family Life forums,----- So I have been with my man for 5 years now and I truly love him to death. He is ...
So I have been with my man for 5 years now and I truly love him to death. He is my best friend and will always be there for me. My question to you ladies is, do you ever miss being single?
I know that I dont want to break up with him but I miss flirting and having that excitement of first dates and phone calls. The funny thing is, when I was single all I wanted was a longer term relationship.
Is the grass always greener on the other side? Am I the only one who ever feels this way?
I have been with my BF for 11+ years and yes, I do have moments like that...I think its only natural. The funny things is on the rare occassion I go out to a bar or something with my single friends, it reminds me of how lucky I am to have him at home
The start of a new relationship is always the most exciting time, but remember, it eventually goes away. I don't think there is anything wrong with the occasional, harmless flirting (not in front of your man, of course) as long as both parties know and respect the boundaries.
BeanBabe,
I think that we all have those thoughts from time to time, but then I think back on those days and remember what a beat down they were....ugh. And I remember what a wonderful hubby and kiddos I have and I would not trade that for the world.
I do however think it is important for you to have time with your friends and him to have time with his.
I think the grass is ALWAYS a little bit greener on the other side....but for me, I find being single frustrating. I have to see happy couples walking around everywhere and enjoying themselves...I'd give up all the flirting if I had a bf like some of you girls have. You're all luckier than you can imagine!
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I think this too since I was single for very short period of time about 5 months after my ex and I broke up I went out with James, it was supposed to be as friends but it ended up a date, hehe. I never really got alot of "alone" experience. But he's a wonderful guy and I wouldn't change what I have for the world.
It's not necessarly that I want to feel single it's just that going out and what not. But I am glad him and I can go out and play pool and be back home at 9pm and go to bed. lol
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Sometimes I think that, too. BUT my singles friends are very lonely. Makes me really appreciate the complacency of marriage. Even though the thrill ride is pretty much reduced to a roll down the driveway in a wagon, I enjoy the comfort of knowing that I am loved, protected, and thought about everyday.
I agree with Nic. I've been with my guy for 4 years now, and I love him more than anything in the world. Sometimes the thought passes me ' I wonder what it would be like to be single again?'
But, then I just have one conversation, a night on the couch or a sunday in bed with my guy and I realize EVERYTHING I LOVE IN MY LIFE would be gone. No way would I never trade that to be single again!
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Originally Posted by Nic902
I have been with my BF for 11+ years and yes, I do have moments like that...I think its only natural. The funny things is on the rare occassion I go out to a bar or something with my single friends, it reminds me of how lucky I am to have him at home
I'm with the other ladies. Sure I think about how it would be to date or be taken out, flirt, etc. BUT I have been with my man for two years, and he is in every aspect of my life. I LOVE to come home to him. I love to take our dog walking with him. My life would be SO different without him.
You ladies are right..I think I just miss the excitment of a new relationship. But that excitment is not worth giving up what I have. I know that my man will be by my side no matter what and as corny as it sounds he is my "soul mate." Haha I sound like Charlotte York.
I think relationships are a lot like body image. You take forgranted all that you really have and you never realize how amazing it is..until someone else comments.
Thank you ladies for helping me realize I am not alone and for knocking sense into me...that is what I needed.
Well to be the odd man out, I don't think of the excitement of meeting someone new or anything. I don't know but there are cycles in my relationship where things are new & exciting different of years (13+ now).
But I do wonder what it would be like to just concentrate on me at times, but I get that chance now and then anyway. Besides I guess I had some great fun times the 2 years I was single before I met him. Maybe too much footloose & fancy free fun, so I've had my fill.
And what about creating some new excitement in your current relationship anyway. I always say that you can never delve too deep in yourself, let alone another person. You may think you know another person a lot but there's always so much more to explore, you just have to know how to look. Or maybe testing the boundaries of your relationship, safe boundaries of course though.
Nope. I've been with DH since HS so that's gonna make....13 or 14 years. I have days when I want to get rid of him because he's making me ill but I'll want him back the next day. Heck, someone has to do the yardwork!
OMG THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER!! Take it from me, if you have an amazing man in your life... a nice guy, good job, treats you right, etc... hold on tight and do not let go. You do not even know what it is like out there for single girls! Sure it's fun to flirt and everything, but it's not fun when you are going home alone the majority of the time... and the times that you aren't going home alone are very very very short-lived, if you catch my drift! Which, by the way, gets REALLY old too.
OMG THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER!! Take it from me, if you have an amazing man in your life... a nice guy, good job, treats you right, etc... hold on tight and do not let go. You do not even know what it is like out there for single girls! Sure it's fun to flirt and everything, but it's not fun when you are going home alone the majority of the time... and the times that you aren't going home alone are very very very short-lived, if you catch my drift! Which, by the way, gets REALLY old too.
You're lucky to have what you have! Cherish it!
Everytime I'm with my single friends I'm reminded of this!!! I would not want to be a single girl...its scary out there
Ever feel this way??????????
You're all luckier than you can imagine!
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