His Female Coworkers

[FabuLiz]

I've been dating this man for a bit over a month now, and I like a lot of different things about him. We're doing well, but I'm just feeling uncomfortable about his relationship with his coworkers. I know that sounds silly, but here's the deal, he works with 90% women, and they are always, always texting and calling him.

After work, weekends, at all times. Just for no reason, to "see what he's up to". I don't really know how to handle it, I usually just ignore it, but I find this is abnormal for one man to have so many female pals that he sees every day, all day long. Makes me feel very strange about our relationship. What do you think guys?

[BeanBabe]

Well for me I work with 90% males, they text me to see whats up on days off as well...they are my friends and that is the end of it. To be honest, I think its something you are just going to have to get over. If he tells you there is nothing going on, believe it. Why would he start dating you if he was having a fling with a co worker.

[Nic902]

Originally Posted by BeanBabe

Well for me I work with 90% males, they text me to see whats up on days off as well...they are my friends and that is the end of it. To be honest, I think its something you are just going to have to get over. If he tells you there is nothing going on, believe it. Why would he start dating you if he was having a fling with a co worker.

Right on BB

I used to work with several men that I was friends with, one that became my best friend and they still will text me at 2am if they think of something silly that they want to tell me. It all comes down to trust...If you dont have it, you've got nothin'!

[Mloveb]

Ditto on everything above. I used to work with alot of men and same thing. They still texted me and my SO isn't uncomfortable with it at all. It's just a matter of trust.

To add to what beanbabe if he was having a fling wouldn't he try to hide it? It sounds like you know he's getting these messages and stuff. Sounds like he doesn't have anythign to hide.

Well, any long term relationship needs to have boundaries before you dive in head first. It all depends on your comfort level. I personally wouldn't ask a man to sever ties with friends he has had prior to our relationship.

However, if you are uncomfortable with his friendships and you want a long term relationship, then you should discuss this with him.

Two things I see:
He is sharing with you his contacts, thus he has nothing he is hiding.
You have been dating a short period and haven't really defined where your relationship is heading.

[Kim312]

I also work with 90% men, and I am always texting a select few to see if they are going out that night... or if something funny comes to find. It is strictly plutonic... and I actually know their significant others and enjoy seeing them when I get the chance.

Nic is right.... bottom line you have to have that trust in order to make it work.