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This is a discussion on Taking a Break within the Relationships and Family Life forums,----- Have any of you ever done this in a relationship? What was the outcome?...
I almost did something like that with my last bf. My step dad over heard and lectured me about not seperating and getting back together because you'll always wonder what the other person did. And I took his advice and it was the best thing I could've done.
I know your situtation is alittle diff than mine was. I think it could go either way. You could break and be happy and not get back together and you could break andrealize you miss each other deeply.
Good luck Booty babe =)
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Yes, girlie. My husband and I have been together since I was 18 and it hasn't been all roses. We have taken a few breaks. The last was about six years ago. We just needed space and to do our own thing. We did have a daughter together, but times were tough. Financially, emotionally.
I went to live with my mother which was about two hours from where he was. We saw other people, got out all of our demons, and got back together a few months later.
Sometimes relationships cause us to grow inwardly. WE feel confined to our tiny patch of garden and start to become entirely internal. The spacial separation allows you to become rhizomatic,and flourish more outwardly. I was truly amazed at how well I could breathe once I broke away. Strange, I know. But, it worked.
I think breaks work for some relationships and not others.
It depends on the people involved.
I dated an asshole once...he wanted a break so he could go sleep with someone else. Obviously the break did not work for us.
But, if it is two mature adults who scincerly need to grow on their own to become stronger together...then yes, I do believe they work.
Did you both see other people?
How did it benefit the relationship?
Yes... It was hard because he began seeing a girl whom I think he had a crush on for a long time. She ended up moving half her stuff into 'our' apartment. But, I think he seriously thought our relationship was irreparable because I was so crushed.I literally wanted nothing to do with him. It was harder for me because I moved to a town where I knew no one. It took me a couple of months to date and then it was nothing fabulous. I did have fun and I think it definitely benefitted us both. Dating definitely helped me realize why I loved him.
We were really struggling financially. I just had a baby and my mom finished a really horrible bout of chemo. Stress was killing us. We weren't getting along and I couldn't find a decent job where we lived. We needed for our sanity. It wasn't because we wanted to see other people. That just sort of fell into the picture.
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