Crush, in a Relationship?

[rosie cheeks]

This may sound a little bit crazy, but I know I won't get judged here. Basically here is the situation, I am getting married in a few months and love my fiance very much he is wonderful, but I have the biggest crush on one of the guys in the gym. The worst thing is that he is super friendly with me and told one of the trainers there who knows me that he thinks I'm hot! This is crazy because my fiance works out, but he's not super serious about it. And this guy is super serious about it and even does some fitness modeling.

He is super hot and could have any girl he wanted and I think it is this fact that is making me crush on him more than anything else, that he could have anyone but he thinks of me as hot. I feel so guilty to even be thinking about any of this stuff because like I said, I love my guy so much. I realize nothing will come of this thing with this gym hottie, but I feel so bad that I time my workouts around him being there sometimes, you know? I guess all I'm looking for here is some feedback and if you have crushed on others while being in a serious relationship, I would love to hear what you think.

[Mloveb]

nothing wrong iwth a crush.

Firstly, I am very in love with my fiance. I would never cheat or anything.

But there is this guy at my guy who looks just like my guy but super fit. I stare all the time lol I even had "dreams" about him lmao. I don't love my guy anyless. There isn't anything wrong with a crush it's just that you don't act on it.

This happens no biggie. It will happen to him to at some time, doesn't mean you guys love each other any less. Acting on these is what makes them bad.

[mattsmom]

I have been married for 15 years and love my husband very much and I've had a crush before. About the time my DH and I got engaged I would shop/tan at the local Max Muscle. The owner is an absolute doll! Super sweet and a bod to die for! I overheard a friend ask him why he didn't ask me out...of course he knew I was engaged so....nothing ever came of it (obvioulsy) but we know there is a mutal attraction there and oh trust me...I fantasize! Like Mloveb said...nothing wrong with a crush as long as you don't act on it!

P.S. If I hadn't married my hubby it would be all about me and Mr. Max Muscle!

[BeanBabe]

It happens to everyone for sure...don't stress. Like you said, you would never cheat on your man, so whats wrong with a little eye candy?

[Nic902]

I agree with the other girls...nothing wrong with havin a little fun in your head I have been with my BF for almost 12years and he knows me so well that when I'm crushing on someone, he calls me out on it and makes fun of me LOL!!!
Its harmless fun as long as you keep it a crush.

Originally Posted by Nic902

I agree with the other girls...nothing wrong with havin a little fun in your head I have been with my BF for almost 12years and he knows me so well that when I'm crushing on someone, he calls me out on it and makes fun of me LOL!!!
Its harmless fun as long as you keep it a crush.

That is so cute!!!!

Well, my dear. Congrats! You are human! It is only nature to find others attractive. Your DNA isn't programmed to find that one person and then never have feelings again. Besides, do you think that your man never thinks about other women?

It's part of who we are. What attracts you to your fiance will attract you to other men. It doesn't mean you are going to act out on this. So long as no one is getting harmed, ogle all you want.

Nothing like having a little eye candy to keep you motivated. In fact, studies show that often if you go on an outing and you and/or your man flirt with others, it gets you all revved up to tear each other's clothes off. Thus, flirting improves your sex life at home.