Should you tell someone their spouse is cheating on them?

[pamalama]

my friend just emailed me and I dont know what to tell her. I need your help.

"I sit by a guy at work that is cheating on his wife. He talks to the other woman all the time at work. You may ask - am I sure it isn't his wife he is talking to all the time? Well today he was asking the "other" woman what she was wearing when he got another call and put the "other" woman on hold. His wife was calling to talk about the kids. He talked to her for a bit then got back on the phone with the "other" woman and told her what his wife called about and then asked her if she was in bed and started to moan. Mind you this is at work!!!! So the "other" woman knows about his wife and kids. The thing that makes me sick is the way he talks to his wife when she calls, he is always telling us how dumb she is when he gets off the phone with her. They have 3 kids together and this poor woman has no idea. Should I let the wife know the next time they make plans to be together? "

[KKKRRR]

Yes. I would.

[Kim312]

In my opinion, the fact that he is cheating on his wife is none of your business. What is your business, is the inappropriate way he is speaking to someone else while on company time. That should be your concern, and if it offends you, you need to get human resources involved.

It is one thing if this wife of his is a good good friend of yours and you are involved in their life, but otherwise it really is not your place to get involved. Unless he is INCREDIBLY good at two-timing, his wife probably already has an inkling that her husband is a scumbag.

[Nic902]

I agree with Kim...Its not your place to tell unless you have some bond with the woman, otherwise mind your own.

[BootyBootyBooty]

^^^X3!!!!!!!

[firespinner93]

X4 What they said.

[fit mom of 4]

x5... not your place and nothing to be gained. by anyone. especially since there are kids involved.

Totally stay out of it. Nothing good will come from it and she will feel like shit. Chances are, his wife knows, or at least suspects he is cheating. Women call always tell. It is admitting that fact that is hard.

I can stress enough how important it is for her to stay out of it. Dealing with an affair is a very private matter. It is humiliating beyond belief and if his wife knew that people at work knew, she would be devastated beyond repair.

[Mloveb]

I agree don't say anything.
Another thing to consider is your job. You work with this dude. If his phone conversations bug you go to your HR department.
But if things get ugly he could go to HR about your medeling in his marriage and you could be in trouble. Not a good place to be at all.
If she were my best friend or something I would know if she thought he was cheating and I would gentely encourage her proding in his business because again your job pays your bills it's your lively hood and they aren't that easy to replace right now.

But I agreement with Kim and KJ.