We all go through tough times with the men in our lives from time to time. Sometimes these relationship problems are long-lasting, other times, they’re short-lived. Sometimes, they’re enough to break up a marriage… yet other times, we come out of them feeling closer to our guy than we ever did before.

Regardless of any circumstance, and no matter how great of a conversationalist you consider yourself to be, don’t you always wonder what really goes through a guy’s mind when he acts a certain way? Wouldn’t you just love to know what prompts certain actions (you know, the ones that make you wanna strangle him at times)?

Well, now you can!

Olicious Life has gathered a panel of our very own resident everyday guys. We’ve got a team of single, engaged, and married men in their 20’s, 30’s, and 40’s who are excitedly awaiting to respond to all of your burning “What’s he thinking?!” questions.

Please send in your questions to Submissions@OliciousLife.com. If you’d like to write to us anonymously, you may do so through here, AnonymousFeedback.com. If you’d like to chat with ladies, instead, stop by our relationship forum!

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How do I make men fall madly in love with me?

I know that my question probably sounds funny, so let me explain: An acquaintance of mine knows how to makes men fall madly in love with her. At the moment, there are three men who are in love with her to the point where they’re all at her beck and call.

She has been seeing all of them for a few months, and they keep her on the phone for long hours call her all the time and shower her with gifts. She’s in her early thirty’s, so it’s not that she’s some cute teenager and the guys are love sick puppies — these are all established people.

My question isn’t about her specifically; I’m just using her as an example. I know of a few women who, like her, seem to have all the guys fall for them instantly and walk through life breaking hearts left and right. I can’t understand what they do to have this kind of influince on these men!

Maybe you, as men, can give some insight on how to make a man fall in such crazy love with you?

What tricks or secrets am I missing? Please share!

Answer

To be honest with you, just the idea that you’re looking for some “magic” tricks or secrets to “break hearts” is a turn off. Something tells me the girls you’re using as examples don’t think in these terms at all! In fact, I’m willing to bet that they don’t put much thought into the process of “making men fall in love” with them — it just happens because of the way they behave around these men.

Sure, I’ll always notice a hot girl, but it’s the girl with a fun personality and an unmistakable air of confidence that’ll make me not only do a double take, but also want to get to know the girl and spend some time with her. Women who don’t take themselves too seriously, who don’t try hard, with whom I have fun regardless of our surroundings. Playful, fun, exciting women who are not only a pleasure to look at, but are genuinely a pleasure to be around.

The Average Woman

Most women I personally have come across end up being unattractive in some way and pushing men away, often unknowingly. This usually has more to do with personality nuances than appearances.

Things like clinginess, lack of interesting conversation; women who are uptight, overly dramatic, jealous, controlling, have closed minds, need constant reassurance, and (possibly above all) lack self confidence, are bound to make me wonder what attracted me to them in the first place.

If I ever run into a woman who isn’t only physically attractive, but also always seems to have a smile on her face, and is the opposite of all those things I mentioned above, I’ll want to do everything I can to spend time with her — just to see what it is that makes her so confident and happy, if nothing else. I’ll want to be a part of her life, as that life seems like such fun! It’s only natural, if you ask me.

To top it off, the sheer fact that the woman doesn’t need me to be so happy with her life just makes me want to be a part of it even more!

The Chase

The fact that she doesn’t need me to reassure her in any way as she’s plenty confident as is, the fact that she already has all these other admirers because of her personality, that she’s not sitting there and thinking up magic potions, but enjoying her life and doesn’t need a man to be happy — that would make me want to beat out all those other men who may want her attention.

Men can’t help it, we have a natural instinct to want the female that’s wanted by others. Naturally, the woman who’s unlike the average, insecure, uptight, clingy, jealous girl with a frown on her face will always be coveted by most men. We will always wonder what it would be like to make a part of what makes her that happy.

She’ll always seem like a whole lot of fun to be with, and who wouldn’t want that — especially when there’s a “chase” involved!

Age is Just a Number

As you yourself mentioned, age has nothing to do with it. A hot girl is a hot girl, whether she’s 18 or 40.

I’ll take a fun, easy going, confident, intelligent, open minded 40 year old who takes care of herself and has a complete, full life, over an insecure, uptight, jealous, unhealthy 18 year old who doesn’t take care of her mind or body, any day!

Like I said, it’s about personality. No tricks or secrets here, just common sense.

Ever notice that the minute you stop wanting to be in a relationship is when you seem to get asked out the most? I know my female friends always mention this, and this phenomenon occurs for one reason only — we sense that confidence that comes with your “screw dating, I’m happy being single” attitude.

You relax, stop trying so hard, and become instantly exponentially more attractive to us!

The girls you are speaking of just carry this attitude all the time. They are confident, and that’s the bottom line.

My best advice to you, would be to stop thinking so hard and trying. Just have fun, you only get one life! Take care of YOU, enjoy yourself, make your life as complete as possible, forget trying to make anyone fall in love with you. The minute this happens, you just may find yourself with more admirers than you can handle!